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“Ingobernable” stars Kate del Castillo as a Mexican first lady who is on the run following the mysterious death of her husband, the president. The title, means “ungovernable”.  It is shot and produced in Mexico City (English subtitles available), by a Mexican firm that has made a string of successful telenovela soap operas.

It is super Mexicany, but super modern Mexican- with LED flashing police cars, Mexican rap music, and flat screen monitors.  It’s got the edge of an American ghetto movie, keeping true to Mexico’s history of extortion, ransom and abject poverty.  It’s realistic enough to keep you believing.  Lots of passionate Latin sex scenes if you’re into that.

In addition to the issues that can be expected from corruption at the state and police level, sexuality, female empowerment, homosexuality, piracy, the role of domestic employees in the lives of the powerful and human rights issues are also explored. You will see a Mexico that is more real and different from all the stereotypes we have.

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Taking the ABC bus from Tijuana to Ensenada in 2017

The Tijuana Linea bus terminal; the red ABC bus to Ensenada; the massive turnstalls entering into Mexico by foot.

Perhaps the safest way to get to Rosarito or Ensenada is by bus.  Nine American dollars will get you a one way ticket to either.  ABC bus company runs every 45 minutes from Tijuana through Rosarito, Puerto Nuevo and terminates at Ensenada.  Toss your belongings in a backpack or duffell bag and head for the border.

You will need to get to the TJ and San Ysidro border crossing in order to walk across.  You can avoid American border parking costs by taking Uber or the San Diego Trolley, or simply have someone drop you off. If you plan on parking your car on the American side of the border and walking across be prepared to pay a hefty parking rate-$25.00 a day.  A two night stay will equal $75.00 in parking since they don’t prorate the days.  Good luck finding cheaper American side border parking.

Walk towards McDonalds where you can exchange dollars into pesos from the nearby money changers (highly recommended due to the record decline in the peso).  Follow the sign towards “Mexico” and follow everyone else.  You will stroll by the cute frolicking Prairie Dogs and then through the massive turn-stalls into the indoor Mexican Border Patrol pedestrian checkpoint.  Show you’re American Passport to the border officer and they will give you a Tourist Visa free of charge.  Keep walking and you automatically end up at the end of the sidewalk where Taxi drivers solicit your business.

The white taxis are Taxi Libre which are usually a cheaper taxi service than Yellow Cab, but both will charge 100 pesos to take you and all of your companions to the ABC bus terminal.  Tell the driver to take you to “El Terminal Linea Autobus ABC” and say you only have 100 pesos. Say “100 pesos” a few times so there is no misunderstanding.  Up and over the bridge, via the round-about, lots of horn honking and you will be dropped off at the bus terminal in three minutes flat.  ABC is front center, and if you are lucky, the big red bus may be waiting there for you.  Buy the ticket at the counter for 180 pesos.  (Ask for a window seat on the ocean side if you want a sea-view on the way down.)  Wait in the lobby.  You will notice that all of the passengers are harmless.  Many are moms with infants and senior citizens with canes.  You will feel safe.  Buy a Mexican Coke at the food and beverage stand and you will soon be in paradise.

The bus is modern with WIFI, and an America Spanish dubbed movie will entertain you the on the way down.  The bus will pass effortlessly through the toll roads and will be ignored by the Mexican Highway Patrol. You will not get high-jacked or harassed because you will be invisible.

The bus will automatically stop at Rosarito near a gas station after about 30 minutes.  To stop at other places along the way, tell the bus driver when you board and while driving walk up and remind him.  (I don’t remember seeing those old fashioned pull chords).  The bus will automatically end up at the Ensenada bus terminal on 11th Street after one and one -half hours of driving.

A safe five dollar Uber or Taxi ride will take you to the tourist strip in Centro Ensenada or Rosarito.  You have arrived with no worries.  To return back to America, reverse the process.  The ABC bus will drop you off directly at the Ped West border crossing, so you will not need to take a taxi on the return trip.  Wait in the long line to get through American customs.

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Fifty percent of marriages end in divorce

trump-first-wifeFifty percent of marriages end in divorce.

You’ve probably heard that claim several times—just as you may also have heard from other sources that it’s inaccurate. As I’ll explain below, the real number is likely lower, but perhaps not by a lot. One thing is for sure. Arguments over what the divorce rate is and whether it’s dropping are ongoing and unlikely to end anytime soon.

Just last month, Claire Cain Miller argued in the New York Times that the divorce rate has been coming down for a long time even while the odds of divorce remain greatly exaggerated in the minds of many. She highlighted the conclusions of economist Justin Wolfers, who told her that “If current trends continue, nearly two-thirds of marriages will never involve a divorce.” In a follow-up piece, Wolfers explained more about the complexity of the issue and defended his claims.

Some go even further than Cain Miller, arguing that the likelihood of divorcing has never been anything like 50 percent. For example, Shaunti Feldhahn, the author (with Tally Whitehead) of a recent book on the subject, argues that it was never true that half of newly married couples would end up divorced, and that 30 percent is closer to the mark. While not a social scientist, Feldhahn has studied the history of the divorce rate and believes people are too pessimistic about the odds of success in marriage. Although I’m not persuaded that the risk of divorce is that low, I agree with her that many people avoid marriage for fear of divorce even when their own risks are quite low.

In contrast to those who argue that the divorce rate has been coming down, or that it was never that high, demographers Sheela Kennedy and Steven Ruggles argued in an article last year that divorce did not level off or decline in recent decades but actually continued to rise from 1980 to 2010. In fact, Ruggles commented on Cain Miller’s and Wolfers’ New York Times pieces, here and here, arguing that conclusions in both are likely incorrect and that most professional demographers have not accepted the notion that the overall risk of divorce declined during the period in question states Family Studies.


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Those who marry after their early thirties are now more likely to divorce than those who marry in their late twenties.

A study from the Institute for Family Studies finds that prior to age 32 or so, each additional year of age at marriage reduces the odds of divorce by 11 percent. However, after that the odds of divorce increase by 5 percent per year. The change in slopes is statistically significant. The graph below shows what the relationship between age at marriage and divorce looks like now.

Divorce Rates and Age of Marriage
Past the age of 32 or so, the odds of divorce increase by 5 percent per year of age at marriage.

Older people have more baggage. If you’ve had children with one or more of your exes, there could be “baby mama drama.” Indeed, having multiple sexual partners prior to marriage significantly increases the chances of getting divorced.The kinds of people who wait till their thirties to get married may be the kinds of people who aren’t predisposed toward doing well in their marriages.Perhaps some people who delay marriage get so used to single life that they make lousy spouses should they ever decide to give marriage a try.

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Penelope Leach’s new book Family Breakdown is horrible

Penelope Leach’s new book Family Breakdown is horrible

Penelope Leach's new book Family Breakdown is horribleof separated couples aged four and under should not be parted from their mother to have a sleepover with their father
Penelope Leach’s new book Family Breakdown is horrible

Pre-school children whose parents are separated should not be allowed to spend the night with their fathers, said a top parenting expert.Psychologist Penelope Leach, whose books have sold millions, accused couples who have split up and arrange sleepovers of putting their own rights ahead of their children’s. The fact is that overnight stays with fathers from as early an age as possible are crucial if children are to form strong attachments with both parents. Her advice went against ‘common sense’ and that ‘the bond between fathers and children is just as important.

Until now, Ms Leach has been best-known for her bestselling book Your Baby & Child: From Birth to Age Five, published in 1977. It caused intense controversy by arguing that only mothers can care adequately for their children and that the paternal role is of only secondary importance.

Psychologist Penelope Leach has said that generally children of separated couples aged four and under should not be parted from their mother to have a sleepover with their father.  In her new book, Family Breakdown, the former president of the National Childminding Association highlights the damage that separating parents can have on even a young baby. Her argument that society treats access to children as ‘a right’ rather than focusing on the interests of the child is dead wrong. Society and especially the family court looks at the best interest of the child- without exception.

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